Things to Say in Wedding Cards
Weddings are — at best — a celebration of love, happiness, and hope for the future. At their worst? They are stressful. Not only are the couple themselves navigating massive checklists, cumbersome schedules, and conflicting calendars, but even wedding guests can struggle under the pressures of a wedding. Especially when it comes to stationary.
Between wedding invitations from the couple, congratulatory cards from the guests, and thank you notes from the — eventually — married couple, wedding cards play a huge factor in wedding-day bliss. What should you include in your wedding invitations? What do you say to the couple in a congratulatory card? Just how detailed do the bride and groom need to be in their thank you notes? Whether you are planning a wedding, attending a wedding as a guest, or preparing to send-out your wedding thank you cards, HelloFrom has the answers to all of your wedding card questions.
The Good, The Bad, and The Stressful
The date is set. The venue is booked. Your guest list has been drafted, edited, and then drafted again. It’s time for the next big thing on your wedding preparations checklist: the invitations. Or, more specifically, choosing the perfect wedding invitation, ordering envelopes, triple-checking that you have enough invites for everyone on your guest list, purchasing stamps, addressing and assembling the invitations, and finally, sending them — phew!
If that gigantic sentence has not scared you away, take a deep breath, and let’s tackle the beast known as Wedding Invitations head-on.
(Alternatively, you could work with our HelloFrom experts and cut your labor — and stress — in-half.)
To Suite or Not to Suite | How to Structure a Wedding Invitation
A wedding invitation is so much more than a piece of cardstock — it’s (often) the first glimpse your guests have into your special day. Whether your wedding is super casual, ultra sophisticated, or somewhere in-between, a wedding invitation sets the tone for the event. And we are not just talking about the actual wedding invitation verbiage; the type of paper or cardstock, the design, the envelope(s), and even the date on which you send the invitations all play a part in how your guest list will view your upcoming nuptials.
A formal wedding invitation should take the form of a suite of matching documents detailing the wedding, the reception, and other relevant information. A typical wedding invitation suite includes the invitation itself, a response/RSVP card with its own envelope (addressed and stamped), a mailing envelope and the necessary postage, as well as an inner decorative envelope, a reception card, directions to the various venues and accommodations, details about the accommodations, information about any weekend events related to the wedding (like a rehearsal dinner), and an invitation wrapper to tie it all together within the mailing envelope. A wedding invitation suite is usually printed on high-quality cardstock, and might include engraving, calligraphy, and other decorative elements.
A more casual wedding invitation might try combining several of these elements together, or doing-away with most of them in favor of a simple invitation, a response card and envelope (or even a RSVP phone number listed on the invitation itself), and a mailing envelope. Casual wedding invitations can be more cost-effective than their formal counterparts, as they can be printed on paper or cardstock, and have fewer documents to print.
The key to choosing/creating your wedding invitations essentially boils down to two things: your budget, and the level of formality for your event. There is nothing wrong with wanting a formal suite for your special day, or for wanting to keep your invites simple. What matters is that you and your spouse-to-be are happy with your choice.
Wherever your wedding falls on the formal-informal scale, the actual words printed on your invitations — sometimes referred to by designers as ‘text’ or ‘copy’ — are key to setting the tone of your wedding, enhancing the design of your invitations, and explaining to your guests all of the necessary information that they need to know about the big day. Deciding what to say — and how to say it — can feel overwhelming. Our advice: The Four Ws and Sometimes Y.
It may sound like a 90s boy band, but WWWWY is a simple structure that anyone can use for wedding card etiquette: Who, What, When, Where (and sometimes You).
- Who - Who is hosting the wedding (traditionally the parents of the bride, though many modern couples handle the hosting themselves), and Who is getting married
- What - What is the event (just a wedding ceremony, a private ceremony with a reception to follow, etc)
- When - When is the event taking place (both the date and the time), and the RSVP info
- Where - Where is the wedding (ceremony, reception, etc)
- You - Any information that is specific to the guests (dress code, accommodations, parking, registries, and anything else)
As long as your invitation addresses the Ws, your guests will have all of the information that they need. The Y is essentially anything else that could be useful for your guests; formal wedding invitations almost always include these details, whereas casual wedding invitations may omit them as necessary. Additionally, destination weddings often necessitate more detailed invitations than non-destination weddings.
Now that we have discussed the knitty gritty of wedding invitations, let’s get into some actual examples. Take a look at some of HelloFrom’s favorite wedding invitation phrases;
Casual Wedding Invitation Wording
Together with their families,
Janet & Jason
would love your presence in celebrating their marriage
May 23rd 2013 | 3 o'clock in the afternoon
2701 Hodges Blvd., Jacksonville FL 32296
A brief reception to follow
We're getting married!
Mike & Becky
Please join us
at 5:30 p.m.
The Union Club
Merriment to follow
Amelia Bell + Jacob Peralta
Request the pleasure of your company
on their wedding day
Saturday, the eleventh of June
Two thousand and sixteen
at half past six o'clock in the evening
the First Congregational Church of Wells
River Forest, Illinois
Dinner and dancing at 7pm
Across the street at Casa de la Guerra
RSVP by May 11th
Jake and Amy are registered at Target
Please join us
for our wedding
2800 E. Observatory Rd.
Followed by Dinner
Formal Wedding Invitation Wording
Together with their families,
Rebecca Nicole Smith
Alexandra Anne Bramington
Request the honor of your presence as they
Tie the knot
Friday April Sixth, Two Thousand Fifteen
At two o'clock in the afternoon
The Vineyards Event Center
New York, New York
Reception to follow
Black tie optional
The favor of a reply is requested before March third
Dr. and Mrs. Harold Quinton
and Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Lancaster
Invite you to celebrate the marriage of their children
Evelyn Michelle Quinton and Jeremiah Lucas Lancaster
Saturday, the twenty-ninth of September
Two thousand twelve
at six o'clock in the evening
Brooklyn Botanical Garden
1000 Washington Avenue
Brooklyn, New York
followed by dinner & dancing
Please dress in your best
Doctor and Mrs. Christopher Griffin
and Mr. and Mrs. Jacob Rothenberg
invite you to share in their joy
at the marriage of their children
Isabella Marie and Murphy Clarkson
Saturday, the fifth of November, two thousand and sixteen
Six o'clock in the evening | The Inn at Serenbe | Palmetto, Georgia
Dinner and dancing to follow
Black tie invited
Mr. and Mrs. William Taft
Invite you to join in the
of the marriage of their daughter
Johanna Ray to
Son of Mr. and Mrs. Abraham Johnson
Saturday, May 11
Two thousand thirteen
at one thirty in the afternoon
St. Mary's Roman Catholic Church
145 Main St. // Unionville, CT
Adult reception to follow at 4:30 p.m. // Farmington Gardens
Accomodations available upon request
Please respond no later than March 13th
Funny Invitation Wording
We’re getting hitched!
Please join Hannah & Peter
October 11, 2021
for a backyard reception following their private ceremony
311 Brooke Lane
Wear whatever you’d like; just don’t forget your dancing shoes!
McKenna & James
are getting married!
August 27th, 2018
Four o'clock in the evening
Santa Barbara Museum of Natural History
followed by dinner and dancing ‘til death do us party (midnight)!
Roses are red,
True love is rare,
Nancy and Jonathon
make quite a pair!
Join the happy couple as they tie the knot
October 4th 2014
four o'clock in the afternoon
Gulf Beach Resort Motel
(and a wedding)
Together with their families
Invite you to join them as they say "I Do!"
Saturday, the twenty-first of August | two thousand eighteen
Six o'clock in the evening | New Orleans, Pharmacy Museum, New Orleans New Louisiana
Dinner and terrible dancing to follow
Religious Invitation Wording
Desiring God's will for their lives
and believing that includes each other
Mary Elizabeth Smith
Lucas Emil Wilcox
together with their parents
invite you to share their joy
as they are united in the Lord Jesus Christ
on Saturday, the twenty-third of June
two thousand and twenty-four
at one o'clock in the afternoon
St. Luke Roman Catholic Church
401 Gray Street
Green Bay, Wisconsin
Join Rebecca Greene & Joshua Levinson
for a beautiful ceremony under the chuppah
and a lively celebration of hora dancing and dining afterward
as we celebrate our love by getting married
Saturday, the twenty-fourth of September
Two thousand and eleven
at half after five o'clock
Temple of Beth Israel
Santa Barbara, California
''In the name of Allah the most gracious, the ever merciful''
The honor or your presence is requested at the Wedding of
M. Safdar Mahmood
Reception is to take place
on Saturday, August 24, 2002
Promptly at 7:00 pm
at the Lounge by Crystal City, Washington D.C.
Kindly RSVP no later than June 29th
With the heavenly blessings of Late Smt. Shakuntala Kumari & Late Sh Vishwa Dudeja
Mrs. Asha & Lt Col Mahesh Kumar Jadeja
awaits your gracious presence on the auspicious event
of the wedding of their daughter
Shivi with Abhijeet
(S/o Mrs. Meeta Vohora & Late Sh Bharat Vohora)
on Sunday, September 12 2021
Reception of Baraat – 8:00 pm
Dinner – 9:00 pm
at Hotel Shiv View, Chandigarh
Say it Like You Mean it | Wedding Card for Couple
With all of the intricacies involved with wedding stationary, it’s easy to believe that a congratulatory wedding card for the couple would also be complicated. Luckily, the modern etiquette around wedding cards is pretty straightforward: make sure that the card arrives around the date of the wedding, be sincere, and absolutely no divorce jokes.
How to Structure a Wedding Card Message
Unless you are very close to one or both people getting married, your wedding card message can be as simple as “Congratulations!” followed by a warm sign-off. This is especially true if you are mailing the couple a gift from their registry, or opting to use a gift tag instead of a card. However, most scenarios require a bit more sincerity.
In terms of how to write a wedding card, our HelloFrom team recommends the following:
- Offer your congratulations to the couple, regardless of how well you know them both.
- Add something personal. Think about what they would enjoy reading after they get hitched.
- If you were invited to the wedding, express your gratitude at being included in their special day. Otherwise, skip ahead to 4.
- End with warm wishes.
The “personal” touch is often the hardest part to write. If you are having trouble deciding what to say to a couple getting married, try focusing on being sincere. Your message does not need to be long, and it certainly does not need to be perfect. You can even alleviate some of the pressure by choosing a wordier card, or including a photograph of you and the couple to fill some of the white space. If you are still struggling to craft your message, consider taking inspiration from these examples of things to say in a wedding card;
Casual Wedding Wording
- Congratulations on finding each other! Your greatest adventure has just begun.
- Congratulations on tying the knot!
- You guys are great together. So happy for you two!
- Congratulations on your wedding day and best wishes for a happy life together!
- We’re so thrilled to celebrate this wonderful day with you both.
- Of all the big life events we’ve celebrated over the years, today tops the list.
- I love you both. Thanks for letting me share in your celebration.
- Congratulations on your wedding!
Formal Wedding Wording
- Through the storms of life, may your love for one another be steadfast and strong. Wishing you joy and happiness on your wedding day. Congratulations!
- Wishing you a long and happy marriage.
- Wishing you the best today and always.
- May the years ahead be filled with lasting joy.
- Best wishes on this wonderful journey, as you build your new lives together.
- Thank you for letting me share in this joyful day. I wish you all the best as you embark on this wonderful union.
- When you two are knotted as one, both families and friends share in oneness of their marital union; may this marriage be a bridge to usher happiness, peace and prosperity.
- May the love you share today grow stronger as you grow old together.
Funny Wedding Wording
- Thanks for inviting us to eat and drink while you get married. Congrats!
- Thanks for the free booze. Best wishes on a long, happy marriage.
- I’ll tell you the secret of a happy marriage. It remains…a secret to all! Wishing you all the best of times ahead.
- On your wedding day today, you have now become two from one. Does that mean I will get two birthday gifts from you both every year?
- I now pronounce you husband and wife. You may now update your Facebook status.
- I canceled all my appointments and an important meeting just so that I could make it to your wedding. After all, free food and booze were just too lucrative to give up. Congratulations.
Religious Wedding Wording
- May God bless you and your union.
- May God grant you all of life’s blessings and love’s joys.
- Your marriage will be strong because the two of you are strong in your faith.
- May God’s love be the glue that holds your marriage together.
- We pray that God will bless your marriage and guide you in your new journey together.
- May the One who brought you together bless your marriage, enrich your lives and deepen your love throughout the years.
- ‘Love is patient. Love is kind…Love never fails.’ 1 Corinthians 13:4-13
- ‘I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine.' – Shir Ha'Shirim/Song of Songs 6:3
- Alhumdulillah! Congratulations! I wish you years of happiness, love, and joy. May Allah bless you!
- May you be blessed with an abundance of resources and comforts and be helpful to one another in all ways.
WWEPD — What would Emily Post do? | Wedding Thank You Cards
The culture around wedding thank you cards has evolved substantially over the years. In the past, there were specific rules to follow — hello, Emily Post — in addition to deadlines and etiquette. While many older generations still follow these ideals, more and more modern couples are embracing less strict guidelines and favoring digital thank you cards over their handwritten, traditional counterparts.
We could spend thousands of hours debating the topic, but the reality is that wedding thank you cards are a personal choice. There might be people in your life who will take offense if they do not receive a thank you card in the mail — or not at all. Likewise, there are people who read their thank you card one time, then toss it in the physical/digital garbage. It’s up to you whether or not you want to send some kind of wedding thank you card; all we can say is that a card is never a ‘bad’ idea — not that we are biased in any way.
(That being said, if you need help choosing your thank you cards, our HelloFrom experts are happy to help!)
If you have decided to send printed wedding thank you cards, we recommend that you order them long before the big day. This is especially important if you plan on having any special wedding-related parties, such as a rehearsal dinner, a bachelor/ette party, or a bridal shower. Having the cards purchased ahead of time gives you the opportunity to send them as you receive gifts — and love — along the way, instead of trying to write and mail the thank you cards all at once. Many couples also choose to have separate cards specifically for those special parties, and often have the envelopes on-site for the future recipients to address themselves.
A word to the wise: if you do decide to print and send physical cards, be sure that they hit the mailbox within the first year of your marriage. The ‘traditional’ rule says within the first 3 months, but most people will just be happy to receive a card at all.
How to Structure a Wedding Thank You Card
Writing a thank you card after your wedding may not sound like a stressful task, but many busy brides and grooms find themselves struggling once they actually sit down and put pen to paper. In case you are one of these couples, we have put together a simple guide to get you started.
Tip #1 Organize Often
Before you even order your thank you cards, you need to make a list of all of your intended recipients. This may simply be your guest list — however, you may also find that other people in your life want to celebrate your new chapter in some way. Perhaps your co-workers pooled together to buy you a gift, or your next-door neighbor sent you flowers. Your guest list is a great jumping off point, but you will need to keep track of any other kind gifts along the way to the big day. You might also keep separate lists for your special parties. The most important thing is that you keep track of who attends what, whether or not they gave a gift, and what the gift was.
Tip #2 Draft, Draft, Draft
Maybe you are a card-writing master with perfect penmanship; if so, feel free to skip ahead. Otherwise, we recommend at least taking some notes about what you want to say in your wedding thank you cards. You can even write a draft of your messages separately and then rewrite them on the real deal. This tip can be especially helpful if you struggle to keep your handwriting neat.
Tip #3 Personal as Possible
Circle back to Tip #1, where we asked you to keep track of your gifts. Mentioning specific gifts and events is a great way to add a personal touch to your thank you cards, especially for those who were very involved with your wedding and parties. Everyone likes to feel recognized, and wedding thank you cards are a great place to do it.
If you have read all of our tips and still feel anxious about writing your thank you cards — we have your back. Check-out these examples of wedding thank you cards and use them as you will;
Casual Wedding Thank You Wording
- Thank you for celebrating with us on our wedding day! Your company, love and wishes made our day complete.
- Thank you for being there on the most important day of our lives. We only hope that you had as much fun at our wedding as we did!
- We are so grateful for all of your love and support on our wedding day — and beyond!
- Roses are red, violets are blue, your gift was AWESOME and so are YOU! Thank you for all that you do.
Formal Wedding Thank You Wording
- Thank you for adding to the joyful spirit of our wedding with your presence and lovely gift.
- We sincerely thank you for your company, gift, and good wishes, and for helping us make our wedding day an occasion we will always remember.
- We would like to thank you for sharing in our wedding celebration. We are grateful for your presence, warm wishes, and your generous gift. We look forward to our future together and to making more memories with you.
- Your presence at our wedding has added so much love to our special day. Your gift has brought us joy and will help us build our life together.
Wedding Thank You Example
Addressing Envelopes — Literally | What to Write on Envelopes
Envelopes are an easy enough thing to take for granted — but when it comes to sending important wedding-related mail, the last thing you want to do is make an error. Be sure to follow all guidelines for the postal service in your country — and make sure that your wedding invitations have the correct postage for their weight.
In terms of what to write on a wedding card envelope that will be given at the wedding, there really are no strict rules to follow. However, the newlyweds will probably enjoy seeing their new names written on the envelope — alternatively, you can address them as ‘The _____ Family,’ ‘The Happy Couple,’ ‘Mr. & Mrs.,’ etc.
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